Dancing in the Heart Of Life by Jane O'Brien

Feeling stressed and anxious seems to be fairly common these days. If we are too stressed and anxious, we become rather paralysed with fear and unable to function very well. That feeling can become overpowering in many ways. I notice that often people use the terms ‘stressed’ and ‘anxious’ interchangeably and they speak of one…

Continuing on with our discussion of relationship, I would suggest some more areas of life with which you have a relationship whether you have thought about them as such or not.As I suggested in the first part of this blog, the clearer we are about our relationships with a variety of things in life, the…

When we use the word ‘relationship’ usually what is meant is a primary relationship in the sense of partner or spouse, husband, or wife or some ‘other’ with whom we can share our life.Many people come to me because they are looking for ‘The one’ or a meaningful relationship with a partner, and I ask…

I notice that often people seem to believe that any attraction to someone else must be for the purpose of a romantic love relationship and if it is not that, it is not of interest to them. Attraction is not simply about romantic love.There are many kinds of attractions and many purposes for them. Usually…

Now that the Coronavirus has caused huge changes to daily routines, I feel as if I had first been in shock and I have gone through a range of feelings, like fear, terror, anxiety, anger and sadness just to name a few. I also at times have felt positive and hopeful, but still it seems…

“If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.”Kahlil Gibran – the Prophet What is death to you?  How many deaths have you attended?  Can you talk about death, yours or that…

Many of us are asking questions about our lives. Are we doing the ‘right’ thing?  Are we in the ‘right’ relationship? Have we chosen the ‘best’ career for ourselves? All of these questions are ones that can be answered with a yes or a no, but does a yes or no answer really help? Maybe…

Many people come to me asking to find ways of overcoming fear and leaving it behind. I wonder about why that is so. Fear is a valuable feeling that helps to put us on alert that something is out of our comfort zone. I remember hearing Dr Elisabeth Kübler-Ross say that we are born with…

The feelings that we experience and need to embrace are not simply the negative ones.  We have every right to enjoy the positive ones. If we block and shut down the negative ones when they need to be felt and expressed safely, we also block and shut down the joyous ones, so we reduce our…